Changing Your Behavior to Get Your Ex-Boyfriend Back
If you’ve decided that you want to get your ex-boyfriend back there are some basic things you can do and other things you must never do. Hopefully, you have taken the high road and not resorted to desperate acts like begging and pleading. Promising to change your ways or breaking up his new relationship are dead end roads best avoided. He simply isn’t going to be interested in anyone who exhibits childish or scheming behavior. Think about it – would you want a guy who did such things?
If you’ve already tried to get your ex back, think about what you’ve been doing. You know these types of behaviors aren’t working, so it’s time to list them – actually write them down and commit yourself to stop doing these things or things like them. Obviously – the strategies you’ve tried haven’t worked – and may even have driven him further away. Have you followed him to see what he’s up to or who he is with? Ask yourself how your behavior would be thought of – does it seem more like stalker than the behavior of someone who loves you?
Don’t play games and pretend that you accidentally showed up in the same place he did. He’s not going to believe you anyway. If – in fact – you truly did turn up at the same club or party because of your shared past – you should say a polite hello and then tell him (politely) that you don’t want to make him uncomfortable so you will leave. This will strike him as a change in your behavior and really get him thinking which is far better than him rolling his eyes and thinking - “Not again – this crazy woman is stalking me!”
You may be familiar with the old saying that doing the same thing and expecting a different result is the surest sign of insanity so CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOR. Changing what you‘ve been doing is the best thing you can do to get your ex back. So if you’ve been calling him repeatedly – stop. Don’t call him at all for a while. When you do, make it a simple call – telling him you were thinking of him and hope he’s ok. Do not let the conversation drift into why you broke up or pleading with him to take you back. End the call after you’ve just let him know you hope he’s ok.
If he should be suspicious of your call – just re-assure him that you don’t want anything except to know he’s ok, and then say good-bye. Always end the call on a positive note and do not let yourself be drawn into long discussions no matter how much you want to. The point of all this is to get him wondering what’s up with you. Why the change? What’s going on here?
Another alternative is to send a quick note in the mail. There are plenty of cute cards that simply let another person know you wish them well and were thinking of them. Don’t get mushy – lovey ones even if you want to. It’s important to not smother him, but leave the door open. Guys want to pursue you – not the other way around. Leaving that door open lets him make the move – rather making him feel chased and smothered. Let him come after you.
After all – it’s the hunter that seeks the treasure!